I Would Love to See My Wife’s Face — Cobhams Asuquo

Visually impaired award-winning producer and songwriter, Cobhams Asuquo has been married to his beautiful wife, Ojuolape for four years now. And in a new interview with PUNCH has said he would love to regain his sight even if it is for one day just to see his wife’s pretty face. Excerpts:

    Do you sometimes wish you could regain your sight even for a day

Cobhams: Yes, I would love to regain my sight even if it is for one day just to see my wife’s face. That is one of the things that would make her happy.

    Do you ever wish he had his sight just to see what you look like?

Ojuola: No, I don’t and I have never wanted him to have his sight for the reason you mentioned. If I
ever want him to have his sight, it is because I wish he can see more of everyday things. For instance, if I am narrating an incident to him or if there is something really nice I want to show him, at times like that I wish he could see. Because he is my gist partner, I often wish he can see the expression on my face when we are talking.

    Is it easy to hide any secrets from your wife?

Cobhams: No, it’s not. Whenever I have a phone conversation with anybody, chances are I would tell her everything we talked about. We probe each other and sometimes I find it annoying.

Ojuola: I always look out for him. For instance, even though he can operate the Automated Teller Machine all by himself, I assist him by standing behind him.

    What do you admire most about your spouse?

Cobhams: I like the fact that she speaks the truth at all times. She is a reasonable person and a good cook.

Ojuola: With him, what you see is what you get. He is diplomatic, courteous, generous, kind hearted and peace loving.

    What hobbies do you both have in common?

Cobhams: We both like ‘fresh gist’ but we don’t talk about other people. We both like reading, movies, and food; I like food more than she does. When we were dating, we used to eat all the time.

    What lessons has marriage taught you?

Cobhams: Marriage has taught me that love is not just a feeling and it is not just about sparks flying all over the place or how you feel at a particular point in time. Love is consistency; commitment, sacrifice and doing the things you say you will do when you say you will do them. It has taught me that responsibility doesn’t just exist in the mind and that you have to be responsible for your wife and children. It has taught me that I have a definite role to play in life and I have to protect my family. I have learnt to put them first before me.

    How involved are you in his business?

Ojuola: I used to be fully involved in his business but right now, I only consult and play an advisory role. I am currently running my own business and I am also in school.

    How do you keep the passion alive in your marriage?

Cobhams: We spend a lot of time together and because we do not work nine to five, we are part of each other’s lives; she is part of my work and vice versa. Her school project keeps us talking. We always have something to talk about and we are never bored when we are together. Whenever I travel and find something I like; say a perfume, I get it for her. She recently initiated an impromptu date; we were returning from church and she suggested we stop over at Starbucks to have coffee and hot chocolate. While sipping our beverages, we talked about a lot of things. Because my work requires a lot of travel, it allows me miss her and she misses me too. Whenever I return from my trip, we are excited.

    How do you handle female fans?

Cobhams: I am fortunate in that regard and it also depends on how you carry yourself. People will always want to cross the boundary hence the need for an indicator that you can’t cross it. You just have to be daring to want to go from being someone I relate with to someone who wants to cross the boundary. My wife is involved in just about everything I do and that is great. A lot of people know I am happily married and I talk about my wife openly. Women are always looking for something more but when it is clear that its not possible, they become more hesitant to start a relationship or cross the boundary.

    Who is first to apologise after an argument?

Ojuola: I don’t think there is a trend. There is a freedom to apologise and there is always an atmosphere for reconciliation. Once you recognise you are wrong, you apologise. Arguments are simply just misunderstandings or a result of expectations that are not being met . We talk a lot and moreover Cobhams isn’t stubborn.

He is very diplomatic, courteous, generous and a kind-hearted fellow.He doesn’t like conflict but he might keep certain things to himself. If he is upset with you, you wouldn’t know because he won’t lash out or talk back at you. People might not know this but if you offend him, you won’t hear from him again.

    Do you run a joint account?

Cobhams: We have individual and joint accounts and I can’t remember whose idea it was.

    Do you help out with domestic chores?

Cobhams: Yes, I do and it also depends largely on where we are. In Nigeria, there is really not so much for me to do because we have people help out; we have a driver, chef and steward. I am the handy man; I try to fix things around in the house. I help with preparing our son for school. I bathe him, dress him up and watch over him, when she has classes or is out hanging out with friends. I generally ensure sure the house runs because its my responsibility and I make sure the generator is in a good working condition because I am a good house husband. But because America is a land of ‘do it yourself’, I take out the trash myself whenever we are there.

Ojuola: We do a lot of things together. He is very helpful, and supportive. We live our lives as a couple. He carries our son, bathes him and puts him to bed. He is a hands-on dad.

    Any advice to married celebrities?

Cobhams: Treasure your partner and commit to building the relationship because when you come home, you are a father, husband, worker, domestic employee and so much more. You are not the celebrity or star.

Ojuola: Live your lives, guard your marriage jealously and have your sacred place. With social media, it’s easy for everybody to know all about you but there is a certain part of life you need to guard and keep sacred.